tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2700829442908097680.post4817242823606443740..comments2023-04-13T06:52:04.420-07:00Comments on A slice of life and matters of the heart!: Warning - I'm a Modern Woman!A slice of life & matters of the hearthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18005272919497313152noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2700829442908097680.post-18071939372884727262012-09-28T01:04:59.282-07:002012-09-28T01:04:59.282-07:00I think it is a stage that groups who have been po...I think it is a stage that groups who have been powerless and dependent for a long time go through - needless aggression/sharp elbows/sharp tongues and quick to take offence. When the group gains the inner confidence of equality and of not being second class citizens, then it is time for the sharp edges and shrill voices to end. This has been true of women vs. men, colonized vs. former colonizer, blacks vs. whites, dalits vs. upper castes. At some point, the former oppressed believe that to gain power, you have to fight the powerful at their game by showing them that they have it too (whatever the powerful have). So the rise of muscular hindutva, dalit aggression and even Indians quick to take offence when the Western Press publishes something critical about us as a people or as a nation.<br /><br />When we gain the inner confidence of equality/equal opportunity then we can say that we can be women (not wannabe men) and win too - in feminine ways, not through guile and wiles but using feminine charm in a straightforward way. We can act from the certainty that men and women are equal but different. We can celebrate our differences instead of trying to out-swear, out-drink and out-fight men. Hamsini Shivakumarhttp://www.leapfrogstrategy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2700829442908097680.post-18917951341047670192012-09-27T22:48:37.888-07:002012-09-27T22:48:37.888-07:00hear! hear!hear! hear!Kedar Anil Gadgilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15156406065049195276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2700829442908097680.post-73464305048989645772011-10-24T22:38:23.508-07:002011-10-24T22:38:23.508-07:00Thank you Pankaj :) I agree with you! It's to ...Thank you Pankaj :) I agree with you! It's to hide our insecurities. And as I've learnt, nothing works like being gentle :)A slice of life & matters of the hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18005272919497313152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2700829442908097680.post-44312419894043894702011-10-24T22:20:47.874-07:002011-10-24T22:20:47.874-07:00nice one Varsha - aggression is mostly like - when...nice one Varsha - aggression is mostly like - when you do a poor job at wrapping your insecurities and end up leaving sharp edges. and I think that goes for either gender. At-least I don't like to be aggressive for no reason. - Pankaj BalaniAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com