When I was single, I used t think I was special. That there was no one like me. I was fun, intelligent, charming (that a lot of people thought I was just full of myself didn't matter). I believed I was unique. Then I grew up and realized that most people are warm, fun, charming and all those other things I thought only was. And yet, everyone is unique. And that was when I settled down. No! I don't think getting married has anything to do with settling down. It's more of wrapping your head around the fact that the world does not owe me an applause for existing and I am as normal as the next person. Once this was accepted, my mind calmed down and looked around with a fresh perspective. And soon, my search for my soul mate ended. I'll tell you how.
A few days ago, I was speaking to a friend who has been "sort of" communicating with someone. Both felt they were compatible and decided to give it a try. Then the guy vanished! He is seen as various parties (busted by Facebook) and on evenings out, just for this girl, he's "busy."
I know both of them. The girl is very pretty, extremely intelligent and grounded. The guy is nice looking, decent, caring and that rare breed, a true gentleman! And yet, while the girl waits, the guy checks out what else is out there.
It's a common enough story. We meet someone, really like them and then the next "unique" person comes along and we run off to see if that could be a better deal! which is fine if you are not in a committed relationship, but you are dealing with people and t is only fair to tell them honestly that you want to explore the world - sometimes till you are 65 yrs old!
I used to know someone who said, "every year you meet at least 2 people with whom you share a great connect." I didn't agree with him then. I thought it was a once in a life time thing and was going to be special! But I do agree now. Look around you. How many people do you really like, get along with, connect with? All of these are unique and you share a special bond with all of them! And your special relationship is going to be the same. Once you accept that you feel connected with a person, it is up to you to decide whether you are ready to hang up your single, ready to mingle shoes, or are you willing to take a chance on this person. Because, believe me, even after you are hooked, cooked and booked, you will meet people who will be special. You will just need to decide whether you want to sit in your cozy home with the one you chose or do you want to be chasing the next rainbow, pot of gold or not!
I decided that being an aging party girl hanging out with other party people was not my thing. I chose the one who made me happy, and be great friends with all the others I connected with! Because relationships don't happen with us chasing a dream, being stopped in our tracks with violins! We have to decide to make them happen!
As for "Waiting for Godot'" it's a great play. Go watch it next time :)
A few days ago, I was speaking to a friend who has been "sort of" communicating with someone. Both felt they were compatible and decided to give it a try. Then the guy vanished! He is seen as various parties (busted by Facebook) and on evenings out, just for this girl, he's "busy."
I know both of them. The girl is very pretty, extremely intelligent and grounded. The guy is nice looking, decent, caring and that rare breed, a true gentleman! And yet, while the girl waits, the guy checks out what else is out there.
It's a common enough story. We meet someone, really like them and then the next "unique" person comes along and we run off to see if that could be a better deal! which is fine if you are not in a committed relationship, but you are dealing with people and t is only fair to tell them honestly that you want to explore the world - sometimes till you are 65 yrs old!
I used to know someone who said, "every year you meet at least 2 people with whom you share a great connect." I didn't agree with him then. I thought it was a once in a life time thing and was going to be special! But I do agree now. Look around you. How many people do you really like, get along with, connect with? All of these are unique and you share a special bond with all of them! And your special relationship is going to be the same. Once you accept that you feel connected with a person, it is up to you to decide whether you are ready to hang up your single, ready to mingle shoes, or are you willing to take a chance on this person. Because, believe me, even after you are hooked, cooked and booked, you will meet people who will be special. You will just need to decide whether you want to sit in your cozy home with the one you chose or do you want to be chasing the next rainbow, pot of gold or not!
I decided that being an aging party girl hanging out with other party people was not my thing. I chose the one who made me happy, and be great friends with all the others I connected with! Because relationships don't happen with us chasing a dream, being stopped in our tracks with violins! We have to decide to make them happen!
As for "Waiting for Godot'" it's a great play. Go watch it next time :)
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