When Harry Met Sally

                                     

Once upon a time, Harry met Sally. Then they married other people. Then they got divorced. Met again but did nothing because, "OMG! We've known each other too long." And that was it. We watched a film about 2 idiots and the film was crap, even if it's the story of most of us!

But I do know a real life Harry and Sally. Recently single, they are consumed by analysis paralysis. Both thinking about it, putting obstacles in their way and doing nothing. While the rest of us are watching the chemistry, wanting to shout, "just get on with it!"

The problem is the analysis paralysis.
He says, "Oh! It's complicated." And we wonder what is complicated. You're single, she's single - where's the complication?

She says, "I've known him all my life. We really get along." Clearly that's a problem. You are friends with someone you hate. No? Oh wait! You like him!

He says, "I know her ex." "You are friends with him?", we ask. "No. I haven't been in touch with him since he vamoosed from her life." Dodo! You're friends with her! You were tolerating the ex because he was married to her. Now he's gone. Ask her out already!

She says, "I like him too much to do this." Wow! We didn't know you were planning to murder him. Because if you like him, go out with him, for God's sake!

"I don't know how she feels." Ask her, you goof!

"What if it doesn't work out?", she says. "What if it does?", we ask.

All I want to say is, sometimes we just complicate stuff in our own heads and lose out on the good stuff. And some of the best relationships start out as friendships. Because isn't it better to be friends first so there is something to keep you together apart from what you do in bed?

So please, Harry and Sally, get out of your own way and do something. And put us out of our misery! Remember, Harry and Sally managed to survive the declaration.