Wednesday 27 June 2012

Men deserve it!

I've spent many a night with the girls, cursing  men who have hurt my girl friends...wishing them all sorts of interesting times because they deserve it...they truly do! Anyone who breaks someone's heart deserves it.

But here's another point of view... I met a man recently who is hurt - very hurt - by a woman. Strangely, he is not in the all women are b&^%)%s zone. That's because he's just grappling with what happened. This man understands it when women curse men because what men are accused of doing to women, got done to him! Yup! He is a victim of the one night stand and poof, I'm gone act!

He met someone who seemed charming, things progressed and the next day she began avoiding his calls. Serve him right, I hear the chant go up! This time I don't agree. Here's a man who was looking for something more than a one night stand and hoped he'd found it. A heart is a heart and never must we break it. Man or woman, the heart hurts. It doesn't know that it is supposed to be hard wired to be a ba$%#!d or a b(*^h! It just knows pain...and happiness.

The point is this...I've discovered that men hurt too. They fall apart when their women leave them, they feel pain when the girls are hurt and a lot of them don't actually set out to be Casanovas and heart breakers. Like us women, they too look for love and attention. Then if things don't work out, they move on...faster than we do, but they do hurt when their heart breaks. And we do break it, simply because we believe than men deserve it and it makes no difference to them!

But here's the truth as I've found it...everybody hurts! Men learn to hide it because they have been taught to be tough and women flaunt it because that's how we are :) But let's be gentle with each others hearts. We hurt, men or women! So let's not presume that men deserve it and women are callous and carry on with the war of the sexes! Let us for once agree that we are all looking for the same thing and work with each other with some trust, a little respect and understanding...as long as we remember to bring along that pinch of salt! And just maybe, we will actually get what we all deserve...happiness!

8 comments:

  1. very true. its just surprising its taken so many centuries for some woman to agree to that.

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  2. Who said men don't cry? Tears were not made for women alone. If one hurts badly enough, one will cry. Heartaches and heartbreaks really can be devastating. Here is to taking care we dont hurt people. I agree, men hurt too. Hugs for whoever the person is.
    Hugs to you as well Vee for being there.

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  3. Well Said men hurt as much as women do and I tend feel that men are less vindictive about their hurt. My personal example is I still wish only the best for the person who broke my heart after marriage (not a ONS)

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  4. Bless you Varsha! The one blogpost that has finally gone into the psyche of the good men! Bless you!

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  5. Well said. I can relate to it :(

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  6. I have been thru this ...both with a ONS and in marriage ...very relatable ...also its wrong to assume men move on faster ..it varies from guy to guy, and his personal coping mechanism ..men have learnt to internalise hurt & grief ..so its easy to assume dat we move on if u don't "see" the hurt in our body language.

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  7. I've been victim of that too. But a bit worse happened with me. I was badmouthed later for things I never did. And I didn't know about it until much later. Anyways I chose to stay quiet. God bless them.

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  8. Very well expressed. And yes 'everybody hurts'.. Try to be gentle with ur relations. God bless u all

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